Fifteen minutes

Have some time between now and the next meeting and because I'll be eating during my lunch break today thought I would take some time for an extra entry today.

Went out to breakfast with my mother and grandmother for Easter. Nothing special, just the local bagel shop. I met them at the shop and ended up driving my grandmother back to my mom's house from there while my mom drove alone. Just a way to split up some alone time with gram. (And give my mom a break as gram had stayed with her since Saturday afternoon. They love each other but living in the same space for even a short period of time is a bit grating for both of them.)
As we're driving my grandmother tells me that the apartment next door to her will soon be occupied by a 97-year-old man.
"How can someone that old take care of himself?" she asked, genuinly concerned.
"Well, you're 91 gram and you're doing just fine," I replied. "Just think, someday you could be 97 and still living on your own."
I said this mostly to see what her reaction would be. I know we don't see each other enough, but can't see trying to find a place where she could live with me (and my husband) because she would lose the community she is living in now. And I think she would miss the people too no matter how much she complains about them. But I wanted to see what she would do when faced with living another 5.5 years.
She slumped a bit and sighed.
"It makes you tired doesn't it?", I asked.
"I just can't think of having to do that many more laundries," she said.

She's essentially been alone since my grandfather died in 1991. She doesn't make friends quickly and has actively resisted the companianship of other men because, well, she's just old fashioned. She can't imagine living with someone other than grandpa.
But the real conundrum for me is, what do you do with someone who is obviously tired of living? I know my father's mother was ready to die, she told me so a few years before she passed. Though my mother's mom is tired, I don't know how ready she is to die? How do you comfort someone who is just waiting? Who you've seen signs of depression in, who you know is just waiting to not wake up one morning? But her brain keeps going, her body keeps moving, she keeps worrying about losing 5 more pounds. What can you say other than "I love you."
And me, childless, who will I hear that from when I'm 91?